Sadly, humans are capable of deceit and dishonesty in all human relationships. However, when dishonesty occurs in romance, it is especially painful. You do not live in a utopian world with saintly beings; sadly, the fallible humans you love sometimes will act dishonestly. Sometimes, they believe it is too painful for them to hurt you … Read more

“I was waiting for something extraordinary to happen, but as the years wasted on, nothing ever did unless I caused it.” — Charles Bukowski   In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), self-reliance is encouraged. REBT shows you how to adopt healthy attitudes to achieve your personal goals. The ABC model of emotion emphasizes how our … Read more

On Sunday, March 3rd, at 9 AM in New York City, I will be doing a special 90-minute lecture on Zoom titled Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy – Core Principles and Strategies. This lecture is free to attend and open to professionals and non-professionals alike. It aims to enhance your understanding of REBT’s system of ideas. Reason for This Lecture REBT is a psycho-educational approach … Read more

It is relatively easy for people to experience unhealthy versions of different negative emotions, which are part of the human experience. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy encourages people to distinguish between a healthy version of a negative feeling and a harmful version. Once stuck in an unhealthy emotional state, humans often act in self-defeating ways. Furthermore, … Read more

Ellis’s REBT theory starts with the premise that humans possess two competing biologically inherited tendencies. The first and possibly more apparent tendency is to defeat our ends, upset ourselves, and fail to take the better path. The second tendency is to think scientifically and experience healthy emotional reactions, allowing us to solve practical problems, aiding … Read more

In REBT, I teach you to understand that once an undesirable occurrence occurs in life, the philosophically sound and most helpful way to think about it is that it (absolutely) should have happened because it did. It could not have occurred, but sadly, this adverse event did occur. Once an unwelcome set of circumstances unfolds, it is … Read more

In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, I teach people the power of flexible and non-extreme thinking. I teach you to use the ABC framework to understand your emotional and behavioral reactions and how to modify them when needed. There is little doubt that unfortunate events and obstacles referred to in REBT as Adversities factor into and … Read more

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy emphasizes three forms of acceptance: unconditional self-acceptance, unconditional other acceptance, and unconditional life acceptance. It is essential to recognize the importance of cultivating unconditional life acceptance. Unconditional life acceptance may be the form of acceptance least spoken of in REBT. Unconditional life acceptance is the antidote for self-pity, depression, anger, and … Read more

People who develop their potential and enjoy healthy relationships with others are open to criticism. Constructive criticism is valuable for personal growth. Those who listen to it with an open mind and then learn from it tend to grow more fully than those who are closed off and defensive to assessments by others. Rejecting all … Read more

In my clinical work with my patients, I have seen that many people wish to become competent or experts at different tasks. Generally speaking, there are two groups of people. One group of people repeatedly do the very thing they wish to learn to do well. They try and fail, try and fail, and then … Read more