Blog: Self-Help Posts on REBT

How to Survive When Your Adult Child Cuts You Out of Their Life

My weekly therapy discussions with patients inspire some of my Intermittent Reinforcement emails. One particularly challenging problem parents request help with is when an adult child rejects them and refuses to have anything to do with them. Parents suffer tremendously when this occurs and often experience powerlessness, bitterness, anger, and hurt. Sadly, a parent cannot … Read more

Professional Adult Children with Uneducated Parents – Resolving the Tension with REBT

My emails aim to show how Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) can apply to different problems. In this piece, I will address how adult children with advanced education sometimes face interpersonal and emotional struggles with less well-educated parents. I will also show how they can feel healthy negative emotions like disappointment and sadness when they are … Read more

Overcoming Worry with REBT

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a tough-minded approach to emotional well-being, and this spirit of tough-mindedness attracts some people to it. In generic cognitive behavior therapy, the therapist guides the patients to test the validity of their worrisome thoughts, assessing the probability that adversity will occur. REBT, a distinct form of cognitive behavior therapy, … Read more

Getting Over Getting Older with REBT

I feel about aging the way William Saroyan said he felt about death: Everybody has to do it, but I always believed an exception would be made in my case. – Martha Beck Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a system of ideas that broadly applies to life’s most significant challenges. Earlier this week, I read … Read more

Cultivating Self-Reliance with REBT

“I was waiting for something extraordinary to happen, but as the years wasted on, nothing ever did unless I caused it.” — Charles Bukowski   In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), self-reliance is encouraged. REBT shows you how to adopt healthy attitudes to achieve your personal goals. The ABC model of emotion emphasizes how our … Read more

Special 90-minute Zoom Lecture Sunday, March 3rd at 9 AM in New York City – REBT’s Core Principles and Strategies

On Sunday, March 3rd, at 9 AM in New York City, I will be doing a special 90-minute lecture on Zoom titled Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy – Core Principles and Strategies. This lecture is free to attend and open to professionals and non-professionals alike. It aims to enhance your understanding of REBT’s system of ideas. Reason for This Lecture REBT is a psycho-educational approach … Read more

Coping with Unrequited Love with the Help of REBT

It is relatively easy for people to experience unhealthy versions of different negative emotions, which are part of the human experience. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy encourages people to distinguish between a healthy version of a negative feeling and a harmful version. Once stuck in an unhealthy emotional state, humans often act in self-defeating ways. Furthermore, … Read more

Learning to Implement REBT is like Learning to Read – It takes Instruction, Work, and Practice

Ellis’s REBT theory starts with the premise that humans possess two competing biologically inherited tendencies. The first and possibly more apparent tendency is to defeat our ends, upset ourselves, and fail to take the better path. The second tendency is to think scientifically and experience healthy emotional reactions, allowing us to solve practical problems, aiding … Read more