People often acknowledge their friends and family’s self-defeating emotional and behavioral reactions, such as excessive worry, anger outbursts, or social withdrawal. As a friend or family member, you may be in a position to encourage these people to consider working on their self-defeating reactions and suggest how best to do it. Let me offer a … Read more

My emails aim to show how Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) can apply to different problems. In this piece, I will address how adult children with advanced education sometimes face interpersonal and emotional struggles with less well-educated parents. I will also show how they can feel healthy negative emotions like disappointment and sadness when they are … Read more

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a tough-minded approach to emotional well-being, and this spirit of tough-mindedness attracts some people to it. In generic cognitive behavior therapy, the therapist guides the patients to test the validity of their worrisome thoughts, assessing the probability that adversity will occur. REBT, a distinct form of cognitive behavior therapy, … Read more

I feel about aging the way William Saroyan said he felt about death: Everybody has to do it, but I always believed an exception would be made in my case. – Martha Beck Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a system of ideas that broadly applies to life’s most significant challenges. Earlier this week, I read … Read more

Sadly, humans are capable of deceit and dishonesty in all human relationships. However, when dishonesty occurs in romance, it is especially painful. You do not live in a utopian world with saintly beings; sadly, the fallible humans you love sometimes will act dishonestly. Sometimes, they believe it is too painful for them to hurt you … Read more

“I was waiting for something extraordinary to happen, but as the years wasted on, nothing ever did unless I caused it.” — Charles Bukowski   In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), self-reliance is encouraged. REBT shows you how to adopt healthy attitudes to achieve your personal goals. The ABC model of emotion emphasizes how our … Read more

On Sunday, March 3rd, at 9 AM in New York City, I will be doing a special 90-minute lecture on Zoom titled Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy – Core Principles and Strategies. This lecture is free to attend and open to professionals and non-professionals alike. It aims to enhance your understanding of REBT’s system of ideas. Reason for This Lecture REBT is a psycho-educational approach … Read more

It is relatively easy for people to experience unhealthy versions of different negative emotions, which are part of the human experience. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy encourages people to distinguish between a healthy version of a negative feeling and a harmful version. Once stuck in an unhealthy emotional state, humans often act in self-defeating ways. Furthermore, … Read more

Ellis’s REBT theory starts with the premise that humans possess two competing biologically inherited tendencies. The first and possibly more apparent tendency is to defeat our ends, upset ourselves, and fail to take the better path. The second tendency is to think scientifically and experience healthy emotional reactions, allowing us to solve practical problems, aiding … Read more

In REBT, I teach you to understand that once an undesirable occurrence occurs in life, the philosophically sound and most helpful way to think about it is that it (absolutely) should have happened because it did. It could not have occurred, but sadly, this adverse event did occur. Once an unwelcome set of circumstances unfolds, it is … Read more