Blog: Self-Help Posts on REBT

Going from Intellectual Insight to Fundamental Emotional Change with REBT

When you learn REBT and apply the ABC model of emotion to understand your self-defeating reactions, you will see how flexible and non-extreme attitudes will lead to healthier responses to life’s adversities. One obstacle you may encounter is transitioning from intellectual insight to fundamental emotional change about the adversity you face. In REBT, the goal is to help you … Read more

Accountability, Parenting, and REBT

REBT is a system of ideas for facing life’s challenges. It’s a tool that helps you identify and modify your self-defeating reactions while instilling specific values. But it’s more than just about survival-REBT is about thriving in a challenging world and finding greater happiness and meaning in your life. Who is Responsible for Your Emotional … Read more

Tom Selleck’s Personal Philosophy Overlaps with REBT Core Ideas

“Look, being offended is a choice. You have to make a choice to be offended. I chose not to be offended.”  “Being hurt is not a productive emotion.”  Tom Selleck (Actor) Occasionally, some celebrities model ideas, attitudes, and philosophies consistent with Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This fact is not a surprise because Albert Ellis, … Read more

Negating Your Demand and Constructing Complete Healthy Attitudes in REBT

Summary of Video: Constructing complete, foundational, healthy attitudes with two components is best. The first component is your asserted preference, followed by negating your demand. For example, I want you to treat me nicely (an asserted preference), but sadly, you may not do so. You do not have to treat me nicely (negated demand). Constructing complete, … Read more

Physics is the law. Everything else is a recommendation. – Elon Musk and REBT

  Summary: Discipline your mind to avoid confusing empirically supported natural laws with recommendations, preferences, and good ideas. Confusing one of your preferences as a natural law that you and others must follow will likely lead to emotional disturbance when your preferences are unmet. Seek to take your rigid, dogmatic, anti-scientific ideas and transform them … Read more