Ten Sensible Ideas REBT Teaches You

1.        Emotional Responsibility: People give me opportunities to get upset but I disturb myself over their misbehavior and can choose not to do so.

2.      Unconditional Self-Acceptance: It is best to only rate my performances but to never rate myself as a person. I can accept myself warts and all.

3.      Uncertainty Tolerance: I dislike uncertainty but it is possible to live with it. I can take calculated risks to achieve my goals even though I may fail.

4.      Discomfort Tolerance: Frustration and discomfort are difficult to bear. I can stand & will bear frustration and discomfort in order to achieve my long term goals. Long-term hedonism maximizes my pleasure in life.

5.      Self-Direction: I can choose to make my own choices in life. I am responsible for the outcome of my decisions and choices.

6.      Vitally Absorbing Interests: I am most likely to experience happiness when working towards important and meaningful long-term goals.

7.      Tolerance of Life’s Difficulties: I never have to disturb myself over the difficulties of life. I can have some happiness despite ongoing problems.

8.      Nonperfectionism: I am a fallible human, a born mistake-maker. I will not demand perfection of myself but I will use my mistakes and errors to learn.

9.      Desiring but Never Needing External Approval: I want approval but I do not need approval from significant others. I can act without approval.

10.   Anti-Awfulizing Perspective: Many very bad things occur in life but it never helps to traumatize myself by wrongly defining them as awful.

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