My good friend and REBT colleague Dr. Windy Dryden is an expert on self-discipline. He makes the point that there are three main principles to self-discipline:   “It is worth doing.” “I am worth doing it for.” “I only make it harder for myself if I don’t do it.” In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy we … Read more

REBT is against all forms of perfectionism. Humans may at times be capable of doing wonderful things but they are highly imperfect beings. When we strive to be perfect by holding the belief “I must do this perfectly well” we tend to experience performance anxiety. This emotion rarely helps us perform at our very best. … Read more

REBT philosophy encourages passion without dogma. When you pursue a goal (e.g. love, career success, fitness, health, wealth, harmony with family) you are likely to encounter obstacles. You then have a choice as to how you think about the obstacles.  You may think in a passionate but flexible way such as “I badly want to … Read more

In REBT, we encourage people to develop unconditional self-acceptance. This involves accepting yourself warts and all. This is different from self-esteem. Self-acceptance involves accepting yourself both when you do well and when you do poorly. It involves no rating of the “self”. You do not rank the “self” next to the “self” of others even … Read more

REBT encourages acceptance. Acceptance is the antidote for emotional upset. Acceptance does not mean liking what has occurred or resignation. Acceptance means acknowledging that a negative state of affairs has taken place and for the time it exists one is able to emotionally tolerate its existence and live on somewhat happily despite its existence. This … Read more

REBT is a philosophy. When you apply REBT to life’s problems you tend to function in a healthier way. You tend to persist and problem solve. You tend to feel some degree of happiness even when you acknowledge that things are not ideal. You cope gracefully with things that cannot be changed. It is a … Read more