Work on rating behavior not rating people as people. So rate what you like about what you and others do. Rate what you do not like about what you and other people do. When we rate behaviors and characteristics of people we will tend not to experience unhealthy anger, guilt, shame, or unhealthy envy. This … Read more
REBT is a problem focused therapy. It is aimed at solving emotional and behavioral problems. People derive insight along the way but the goal is to help people eliminate self-defeating emotions and behaviors. Ask yourself: – What emotions do I experience that are self-defeating? (Pick from anger, depression, anxiety, shame, guilt, unhealthy envy, and unhealthy … Read more
Ten Sensible Ideas REBT Teaches You 7/14/2015 1. Emotional Responsibility: People give me opportunities to get upset but I disturb myself over their misbehavior and can choose not to do so. 2. Unconditional Self-Acceptance: It is best to only rate my performances but to never rate myself as a person. I can accept […]
One thing I have learned over the years is that figuring out how things work in life requires the ability to tinker with your problem. I have found this idea particularly useful when working with a misbehaving computer program. Computers sometimes do not initially work as we wish they would and when we get an … Read more
Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Abraham Lincoln
Quote Consistent with REBT Philosophy 6/24/2015 Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Abraham Lincoln Self-Pity & Low Discomfort – A Deadly Combo 6/15/2015 0 Comments When I worked with Dr. Albert Ellis in New York City years ago he emphasized the concept of discomfort tolerance. He tirelessly […]
Example Problem: You are an adult but your older sister treats you like a child. ABC Analysis of This Problem Your Goal: To be treated like an adult with respect. To be treated by your older sister as an equal. (A) Adversity: You perceive your old sister to be treating you like a child when … Read more
If you have a personal goal Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) can help you achieve it. REBT is a broadly applicable philosophy of life and a broadly applicable psychotherapy. Whether you are looking to find love, overcome an addiction, achieve in your career, raise emotionally well-adjusted children or better manage your self-defeating emotions REBT can … Read more
You May Get It If You Persist at It 5/26/2015 If you have a personal goal Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) can help you achieve it. REBT is a broadly applicable philosophy of life and a broadly applicable psychotherapy. Whether you are looking to find love, overcome an addiction, achieve […]
My mentor and fellow REBT psychologist, Dr. Windy Dryden, has written a superb book entitled How to Come out of Your Comfort Zone. He argues that we have two strong instincts and those are to either try to avoid discomfort or maintain comfort. He points out that these instincts are not self-defeating as long as … Read more
