Keep working on your low discomfort tolerance. Impatience is self-defeating. Life takes time. Stay with a goal and you will achieve it or come real close which will have ample rewards. The goals we generally fail at are the ones we quit on. Make your mantra “It is difficult and uncomfortable to sustain effort but not … Read more
Start each morning with the assumption that a few things will occur today: 1. Assume something or someone will frustrate you in some way. They will stand in your way, block you or slow you down. 2. Assume that you are likely to respond well to some of these frustrations but you will also not … Read more
Show Me the Money 3/9/2017 Talk is cheap. It is easy to parrot the philosophy of REBT. It is very easy for anyone to say the following REBT ideas: 1. I disturb myself when I face a difficult challenge. 2. I can accept myself even if I misbehave and then work real hard to curb […]
No slavery is more worthy of scorn than one which is self-imposed. Whenever we hold an attitude that includes absolutistic musts, shoulds, have to’s, need to’s and oughts we create self-imposed emotional and behavioral slavery. For example: I need his or her and love and approval. – (approval and love slavery) vs. I want his or … Read more
He Who Angers Thyself Defeats Thyself 2/17/2017 Anger is nearly always self-defeating. It blocks creativity and persistence at solving problems. It leads to impulsive behavior that feels good in the short run but often has very negative consequences in the long run. It corrodes relationships or causes them to end suddenly in heated argument. Anger […]
There are a few ideas in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy which I tend to talk about all day long with nearly all of my patients. We apply them to different problems but these are core principles that tend to be relevant regardless of the particular details. These principles are listed below for you to review: … Read more
I encourage you to accept that force and energy are required for emotional behavioral change. The human condition is such that we resist changing. If we are to overcome self-defeating behaviors, emotions, and attitudes we have to accept that it will require effort, lots of it!Yes REBT is unique in how we do not sugarcoat … Read more
Consistent with both Stoic Philosophy and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy it is recommended that you focus on what you can control. You can control your effort and your attitudes. You cannot control the outcome of things. When it comes to doing well in any particular test of performance strive to do well AND strive to … Read more
Here is an attitude many hold and clearly leads to emotional disturbance: “Other people, particularly those I have cared for and treated well, absolutely must treat me kindly and fairly, or else they are rotten individuals who deserve to suffer!”Now reflect on these three questions: 1. When I hold the attitude “Other people, particularly those I … Read more
Strive to practice, practice, and practice some more REBT attitudes every day. Homework is the most important ingredient to therapeutic success. At my site you can, at no cost, read about and learn REBT in different ways. You can listen to REBT audio and watch REBT video on the general theory and practice of REBT. You can watch video on how to … Read more
