That First “Wow” Moment When REBT and Stoic Philosophy Clicks for You! 9/26/2017 After visiting my elderly mother on Sunday afternoon at the assisted living facility where she resides, the rental car I was using would not start and I was an hour from home. The rental car company first had me try a few […]
Which is your go-to disturbance? Is it ego disturbance or discomfort disturbance? Chances are because you are a flawed human you have both. The good news is that there is a way to deal with these human vulnerabilities. Keep in mind the following things: 1. It is not events that disturb us but our rigid … Read more
Remember to keep up with your REBT self-help. It comes down to use it or lose it. Your biological tendency to upset yourself will cause you to needlessly disturb yourself unless you actively work against doing so. Each day reflect on how well you are managing your emotions and where you might do better. In the … Read more
There is a clear pattern I see between the people who get better with REBT and those who do not. Active participation and active engagement with REBT separates the two groups. You need to ACTIVELY question and dispute your thinking. Too many people get in an unhealthy, unproductive mood or engage in a self-defeating … Read more
If you wish to take control over your emotional reactions to adversity and thereby have greater control over your life forcefully remind yourself of the three following things: 1. I make myself upset. It does not just happen to me. 2. I do not have to make myself upset – I have choice in how I react. 3. … Read more
Keep reminding yourself that you disturb yourself when progress towards your cherished goals is slow or difficult to achieve. Strongly tell yourself at the tempting moment when you want to quit and avoid staying the course: “Progress does not absolutely have to be quick and easy as I want it to be. I disturb … Read more
Keep reminding yourself that you disturb yourself. Strongly tell yourself at that tempting moment when you want to engage in irrational thinking, irrational emoting and self-defeating whining: “Things do not absolutely have to be as I want them to be. I disturb myself by demanding reality to be as I think it absolutely should … Read more
Nothing AND no one have to be the way I want them to be. This is the bottom line. The sooner we all get this into our thick, fallible heads the more serenity we all will enjoy and perhaps we all will start working together a bit better. Try it!
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy appeals to me, and hopefully sooner or later to you as well, because it is a liberating philosophy AND psychotherapy. It is self-liberating. It emphasizes choice, self-responsibility from emotional disturbance and self-direction. This is why I practice it on myself and teach it to others. The premise in REBT is that … Read more
People often give lip service to rational thinking and the Principle of Emotional Responsibility. They will agree that adversity in and of itself is insufficient for causing emotional upset when they are successful at using the ABC model and the Principle of Emotional Responsibility. However, sometimes a person will argue that under some conditions some … Read more
