Emotional Responsibility – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own emotional destiny.” – Albert Ellis, Ph.D. In Rational Emotive Behavior … Read more
Develop an Anti-Moaning Philosophy “Acknowledge that you are choosing, are responsible for your self-pitying and complaining. People may be doing you in and conditions may truly be unfair. But nobody makes you whine about this. Nobody but you.” – Albert Ellis, Ph.D. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy helps people appreciate the power of choice that … Read more
Bearing the Bearable – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk “…very few things you don’t like will actually kill you. In fact, you rarely say, ‘I can’t stand it!’ when you are referring to physical danger – but mainly to non-dangerous events like rejection. So you can stand practically everything that you don’t at all like.” – … Read more
Overcoming the Shackles of Shame – Dr. Matweychuk In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we liberate people from the shackles of shame. Shame reduces your pleasure and freedom in life and is therefore considered a self-defeating, unhealthy negative emotion. REBT regards feelings as important signals which come in healthy and unhealthy pairs. The healthy alternative to … Read more
Overcoming the Shackles of Shame 11/24/2018 In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we liberate people from the shackles of shame. Shame reduces your pleasure and freedom in life and is therefore considered a self-defeating, unhealthy negative emotion. REBT regards feelings as important signals which come in healthy and unhealthy pairs. The healthy alternative to shame is […]
3 Steps to Healthy Negative Emotions To use REBT to change self-defeating emotional and behavioral reactions, learn to identify your rigid and extreme attitudes, question, then change these attitudes towards adversity. Use these questions to correct your thinking and behave more effectively: 1. Is my rigid attitude, my “Must, Absolute Should” helping me function well in … Read more
3 Steps to Healthy Negative Emotions: #1 Identify & Question, #2 Evaluate Your So-called Evidence, #3 Create a New Attitude 8/22/2018 To use REBT to change self-defeating emotional and behavioral reactions, learn to identify your rigid and extreme attitudes, question, then change these attitudes towards adversity. Use these questions to correct your thinking and behave […]
Beating Backsliding After Making Hard-Earned Therapeutic Gains 7/10/2018 Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, REBT, is a very useful therapeutic approach for achieving emotional and behavioral change. REBT works when people work at it. However, it is not unreasonable to expect and prepare in advance for backsliding. Expecting the possibility of backsliding after achieving therapeutic gains is […]
Overcoming the Tyranny of Shame 6/4/2018 Shame is a potent and painful emotion for many people. It often is accompanied by anxiety, and people often find that they have problems with both of these emotions. Shame is so compelling people have committed suicide when in the throes of a shameful episode. Let’s do an ABC […]
How to Make Yourself “Keep Going” and Impervious to Failed Effort 5/17/2018 It is obvious to say sustained effort matters when pursuing goals. Winston Churchill famously said, “Keep Going.” He who keeps going is considerably more likely to get his prize in the end. REBT helps people continue to maintain an effort towards their goals […]
