Overcoming the Tyranny of Shame 6/4/2018 Shame is a potent and painful emotion for many people. It often is accompanied by anxiety, and people often find that they have problems with both of these emotions. Shame is so compelling people have committed suicide when in the throes of a shameful episode. Let’s do an ABC […]
How to Make Yourself “Keep Going” and Impervious to Failed Effort 5/17/2018 It is obvious to say sustained effort matters when pursuing goals. Winston Churchill famously said, “Keep Going.” He who keeps going is considerably more likely to get his prize in the end. REBT helps people continue to maintain an effort towards their goals […]
REBT Asks a Great Deal of You and Me 4/18/2018 As a philosophy and psychotherapy, REBT asks a great deal of the patient and the psychotherapist. It is not a natural philosophy for the patient to adopt and practice. The message of REBT is to resist your human nature and do what is uncomfortable and […]
Drive Yourself Sane – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk REBT is a rebellious type of philosophy. It encourages you to question dogma. REBT argues that emotional health results from scientific thinking and flexible thinking. When we engage in uncompromising thinking, rigid thinking, antiscientific thinking, dogmatic thinking we render ourselves“unsane.” A philosopher named Alfred Korzybski coined this term. … Read more
Finding the Opportunity Within the Adversity – Dr. Matweychuk Once an adverse event beyond your control occurs, once you have been obstructed either by the hand of fate or the actions of another person it is prudent to be capable of immediately identifying the good within the bad, the opportunity within the obstruction. This skill … Read more
Finding the Opportunity Within the Adversity – Dr. Matweychuk Once an adverse event beyond your control occurs, once you have been obstructed either by the hand of fate or the actions of another person it is prudent to be capable of immediately identifying the good within the bad, the opportunity within the obstruction. This skill … Read more
You Cannot Change the Weather & You cannot Change Other People 2/26/2018 In REBT we encourage people to eliminate self-created emotional upset by cultivating self-acceptance and other-acceptance. We encourage unconditional person acceptance along with critically evaluating the deeds we and others carry out. The goal is to judge what people do but never to judge […]
People often think that REBT advocates positive thinking. This is not wholly true nor entirely false. REBT philosophy advances realistic thinking. Realistic thinking conforms with reality and observable data and incorporates a balanced perspective that will often include elements of the good within the bad. However, REBT is not merely advocating positive thinking. What is … Read more
Demandingness, Ego Disturbance & Discomfort Disturance The genius of Albert Ellis was that he took ancient and modern philosophical wisdom and boiled it down to a few easily communicated ideas. Here is a list of a few of those ideas: 1. We always have a choice in the attitudes we hold, and these determine our … Read more
Meditate on and keep in mind the following attitude: I want people to be as I want them to be BUT they do not have to be as I want them to be. I want people, especially loved ones, friends, and significant others to treat me as I want them to treat me BUT despite … Read more
