​Do you know someone who cannot take well-meaning feedback? Perhaps a family member or a colleague cannot tolerate feedback and defensively rebuts your well-meaning feedback. Have you ever defensively responded to feedback? If you wish to understand better what leads to this self-defeating interpersonal response, then read on. Better still, read on because you want … Read more

The Stoic philosophers often recommended that we prepare in advance for adversity by rehearsing certain coping statements. REBT heavily borrows from Stoicism. Here are a few of REBT’s often repeated coping ideas to have at the ready at the tempting moment. The enticing moment is that moment when you face adversity and may begin to … Read more

It is time to double down on Unconditional Life Acceptance. REBT is a tough-minded philosophy that can help us experience Covid 19 personal growth if we discipline our minds to do so.

In the brief video, I discuss how a rational attitude regarding tolerating discomfort should preferably be linked to a statement that the activity is worth doing. In REBT we do uncomfortable tasks in the short run because they maximize pleasure in the long run in areas of life that are important to us.

“We need prudence to avoid cheating ourselves with short-lived pleasures that cost too much; wisdom to choose the simpler pleasures that cost less and last longer.” – Epicurus Albert Ellis argued that humans have the goals of being happy and surviving. He noted that many of his patients were prisoners of comfort. He pointed out that the human … Read more

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) developed in a real-world clinical setting. Ellis based his therapy on timeless philosophical ideas. Because of its roots in philosophy, it applies to a broad range of human problems and dilemmas. The rational pursuit and use of money is the subject of this email. Due to space limitations, I will … Read more

You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours. – Seneca ​In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we encourage people to accept what they cannot change. Acceptance is a difficult thing to teach to another. Family, friends, and psychotherapists often prescribe it but poorly teach you how to attain a state of … Read more

Now that the new year has started, perhaps it may very well be time to make some plans to get out of your comfort zone to grow as a person in 2021. In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we argue that one of the fundamental ways that fallible humans hold themselves back in life is to … Read more

At his trial for impiety and corrupting the youth of Athens, Socrates famously said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” As the new year approaches, I have been reflecting on four questions: What would you do if you had all the time and money in the world? How would you live if you knew you had … Read more

In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we help people overcome their self-defeating tendency to procrastinate, also known as avoidance behavior. Nearly all humans do some procrastinating at some point in their lives. This avoidance is probably because all humans have a strong predisposition to remain comfortable in the short run and an inclination to rate themselves … Read more