How to Stay with the Effort to Achieve Your Long- Term Goals 10/19/2016 To improve your ability to stay with your goals you will need to improve what we refer to in REBT as low discomfort tolerance (LDT) or low frustration tolerance (LFT). Those who have a problem with LDT desire a particular goal but […]
Rational Expectations for Fallible Humans 7/13/2016 The philosophy of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy encourages you to see all humans as fallible beings. There are no super-humans and no sub-humans. Therefore, I encourage you to rate only what people do but avoid rating, summing up the entire person for what they do or fail to do. […]
“Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.”- Seneca 6/14/2016 Anger is an incredibly self-defeating negative emotion. If you want to not be angry give up the “absolute shoulds, musts, and have to’s” that are at the core of your anger and emotional disturbance. In Rational Emotive […]
Overcoming Ego Anxiety and Discomfort Anxiety 5/23/2016 Assume that anxiety is the result of rigid and extreme beliefs about perceived threats. One type of anxiety, called ego anxiety, has to do with rigid and extreme beliefs about anticipated disapproval or criticism from significant others. The other type of anxiety, discomfort anxiety, has to do with rigid and extreme beliefs about situations or […]
Overcoming Your Fear of Failure 3/22/2016 Some people report that they have anxiety due to a fear of failure. This fear often leads the individual to avoid taking what we in REBT refer to as calculated risks. Calculated risks are trying things that have a benefit to the person if they are achieved but are […]
“You can only be a ‘victim’ of yourself. It’s all how you discipline your mind.” – Epictetus 2/23/2016 REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy) is based on the teachings of Stoic philosophers and is a mix of ancient and modern philosophy packaged for coping with problems of everyday living. The first principle of REBT is known as […]
A Counterintuitive Way to Improve Relationship Difficulties 1/14/2016 Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) gives couples who seek help for a problematic relationship some counterintuitive advice. In REBT couples counseling I ask a simple question – “If you could change two things about yourself that would help this relationship what would they be?” This question redirects […]
23 Sensible Ideas REBT Teaches 12/30/2015 1. Your beliefs matter. They have consequences. When Adversity strikes you bring Beliefs to the Adversity and there are emotional Consequences. This is the famous ABC model of Emotion pioneered by Albert Ellis. 2. Rigid and Extreme beliefs are at the core of emotional disturbance while Flexible and Non-extreme […]
Manage Your Anger Before It Manages You 9/25/2015 “Deciding to live your life with less anger may be one of the most important decisions you will ever make.” – Albert Ellis, Ph.D. In REBT I teach that anger is an extremely self-defeating emotion. It is easy for humans to experience anger but this does not […]
Three Core Ideas of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBTcbt) 10/5/2015 REBT has a few core ideas. The big three are: 1. The principle of Emotional Responsibility – You make yourself upset over the misbehavior of others. You make yourself angry, hurt, etc. Hurt is anger reserved for loved ones. Anger and hurt never make things […]
