Do You Have a Mission? If Not, You Had Better Get One

Working with retired people who struggle with depression has made it clear that some were “waiting to die.” After successful careers, either adversity or choice led them to retire. The daily goals these people had, the satisfaction they received from their work, and the reinforcement and structure that went with their former lives vanished overnight. What crept … Read more

Breaking Free of Your Ego Cage

Do you have an ego problem? The honest answer to this question is probably a resounding yes if you are human. The Oxford English Language dictionary defines ego as a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. Whether they realize it or not, most people value themselves based on some trait or traits they possess or something … Read more

Do You Want to Be in Therapy or Profit from Therapy?

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a problem-focused, solution-oriented therapy. You can find these solutions by doing REBT self-therapy or working with a professional REBT psychotherapist. When people elect to work with me, I believe I teach them skills and ideas for addressing their emotional and behavioral problems. I help people understand how they create and … Read more

Do Your Psychological Pushups Daily to Have Flexibility at the Ready

In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), we encourage the daily practice of rational thinking. REBT theorizes that human nature has two competing instincts. One instinct is to think in rigid, dogmatic, and extreme ways, which leads to disturbed emotional reactions, self-defeating behavior, and ineffective interpersonal responses. The other instinct is to think in flexible, non-extreme, … Read more

Coping With Medical Illness, the Process of Dying and Death

The art of living well and the art of dying well are one.  ― Epicurus Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a philosophically based cognitive behavior therapy that can assist humans facing all sorts of challenges. REBT’s healthy attitudes apply to athletic performance, executive leadership, as well as problems of daily living. The focus of today’s Intermittent … Read more

Generalize Just Don’t Generalize

There are patterns to be observed in life. The best predictor of future human behavior is past behavior. We can come to “expect” some behaviors from “some” people “some” of the time. This way of thinking often applies to the events of life. What has happened before often will happen again. It makes good sense for … Read more

REBT and Zen Buddhism

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a powerful philosophy of life and psychotherapy. Practicing REBT philosophy frees the individual from the self-imposed emotional upset humans create when facing life’s challenges. In REBT, we teach that it is healthy to experience negative emotions like sorrow, disappointment, annoyance, and concern but that despair, shame, anger, and anxiety are … Read more