Walter J. Matweychuk, Ph.D. When you are having a negative emotional or behavioral response to a negative state of affairs, stop and ask yourself: Am I reacting to this negative state of affairs with a healthy or unhealthy emotional and behavioral response? What are my many different goals in this situation, and is my response undermining my chances of obtaining them? … Read more
In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we encourage you to live your life to enjoy yourself. Albert Ellis, the originator of REBT, encouraged people to assume this was the only life they would likely have and to live it to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. He pointed out that humans are naturally inclined to have goals … Read more
Let us be honest life is challenging and, at times, downright hard. Frustration, disappointment, loss, burdens, betrayal, incompetency, and complexity abound. In response, you experience emotions, feelings, and behavioral reactions. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a philosophy for managing your responses to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t … Read more
Whether we acknowledge it or not and cultivate and exploit the capability, humans can choose their emotions. You can think about your thinking, observe your internal emotional experiences, and work through your unhealthy negative feelings. However, you cannot achieve a never-ending state of emotional well-being. In Rational Emotional Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), we hold a … Read more
In REBT, we encourage people to eliminate self-created emotional upset by cultivating self-acceptance and other acceptance. We promote unconditional acceptance of all humans while critically evaluating the deeds which they carry out. The goal is to judge what people do but never to overgeneralize and rate the total person. Directing judgment this way helps us … Read more
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) attempts to do several things. It teaches you sensible and self-helping ideas and attitudes. It also hopes you learn a process that enables you to transition from self-defeating emotional-behavioral states into self-helping states as needed. It aims to show you how to skillfully change what you can and live with … Read more
The Philadelphia Eagles quarterback, Jalen Hurts, responded graciously to a reporter’s inquiry following his team’s heartbreaking loss, despite his extraordinary performance in Superbowl LVII. Hurts said, “The beautiful part about it is everyone experiences different pains, everyone experiences different agonies of life. You decide if you want to learn from it. You decide if you want … Read more
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. – Steve Jobs Sadly, you will die. Although dying has a downside, as Steve Jobs recommends, you can use your limited time and death to your advantage. The fact that you will … Read more
Considering adversity as awful or terrible has profound emotional consequences. When we “awfulize” and “terriblize,” we evaluate an adverse event with an illogical badness rating scale, leading to unhealthy anxiety, worry, and panic. Therefore, it is essential to understand how you think and what you mean when you awfulize. It would be best if you came to see that regardless of … Read more
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a philosophy that encourages personal growth throughout the lifespan. REBT gives you the tools to stay youthful and enjoy life fully as you age. REBT teaches it is better to see life as an opportunity to enjoy yourself rather than as a prideful test to meet the expectations of others and … Read more
