Walter J. Matweychuk, Ph.D. Manage Your Anger Before It Manages You 9/25/2015 “Deciding to live your life with less anger may be one of the most important decisions you will ever make.” – Albert Ellis, Ph.D. In REBT I teach that anger is an extremely self-defeating emotion. It is easy for humans to experience anger but this does not […]
Remember people do what they do. If you respond with righteous, dogmatic anger that self-defeating emotion is constructed by you. This is not to blame you or condemn you but to encourage you to adopt the Principle of Emotional Responsibility. Remind yourself that others give you an opportunity to make yourself upset. Your rigid musts, … Read more
Remember the principle of Emotional Responsibility which is the foundation of REBT philosophy. It is a liberating principle if you push yourself to implement it. Other people only give you an opportunity to get disturbed and upset. YOU make yourself upset over what other people do or fail to do. Rather than trying to change … Read more
Three Core Ideas of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBTcbt) 10/5/2015 REBT has a few core ideas. The big three are: 1. The principle of Emotional Responsibility – You make yourself upset over the misbehavior of others. You make yourself angry, hurt, etc. Hurt is anger reserved for loved ones. Anger and hurt never make things […]
The theory of REBT places a strong emphasis on personal responsibility, self-acceptance, and self-direction. I encourage you to hold yourself personally responsible for your self-defeating emotional and behavioral reactions in response to the adversities of life. I encourage you to unconditionally accept yourself even when others reject you or disapprove of you. I encourage you … Read more
REBT encourages you to adopt the principle of emotional responsibility. This is the notion that other people provide us with an opportunity to experience upset. It is the beliefs we hold ABOUT what they do which lead to our emotional upset. In short you make yourself upset over the misbehavior of other people. Keep your … Read more
Work on rating behavior not rating people as people. So rate what you like about what you and others do. Rate what you do not like about what you and other people do. When we rate behaviors and characteristics of people we will tend not to experience unhealthy anger, guilt, shame, or unhealthy envy. This … Read more
REBT is a problem focused therapy. It is aimed at solving emotional and behavioral problems. People derive insight along the way but the goal is to help people eliminate self-defeating emotions and behaviors. Ask yourself: – What emotions do I experience that are self-defeating? (Pick from anger, depression, anxiety, shame, guilt, unhealthy envy, and unhealthy … Read more
Ten Sensible Ideas REBT Teaches You 7/14/2015 1. Emotional Responsibility: People give me opportunities to get upset but I disturb myself over their misbehavior and can choose not to do so. 2. Unconditional Self-Acceptance: It is best to only rate my performances but to never rate myself as a person. I can accept […]
One thing I have learned over the years is that figuring out how things work in life requires the ability to tinker with your problem. I have found this idea particularly useful when working with a misbehaving computer program. Computers sometimes do not initially work as we wish they would and when we get an … Read more
