On Coping With Annoying Relatives at Thanksgiving
“People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” -Albert Ellis, Ph.D
Walter J. Matweychuk, Ph.D.
REBT Leads To Resilience
REBT is the Cognitive Behavioral psychotherapy that can really help a person when their worst nightmare, sadly becomes a reality. It takes direct aim at the beliefs that make us most vulnerable to emotional disturbance.
On Stubbornly Refusing To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything, Yes Anything!
Like all people, Albert Ellis did not have an easy life. He was ill as child, spent much time away from his family in the hospital as a boy, experienced poverty as a young adult, and was ridicule as a professional. His professional peers ridiculed him for teaching his clients that the past did not … Read more
Safer Sex Fatigue & Low Discomfort Tolerance
In today’s world it is prudent to practice safer sex strategies. Sexually transmitted diseases too often have significant implications for those who contract them. The CDC reports that “studies of sexually transmitted diseases and sexual behaviors suggest a resurgent HIV epidemic among men who have sex with men.”1 The CDC goes on to say that … Read more
Adapting To Misfortune
REBT teaches people to see that their beliefs about the misfortunes of life have a profound impact on their emotional and behavioral reactions. Rigid beliefs about life’s adversities will produce self-defeating emotional upset. In REBT we distinguish between appropriate and healthy feelings of sadness and unhealthy feelings of sadness, depression, despair. When very bad things … Read more
Meeting Life’s Expectations
Often during my psychotherapy and coaching sessions I hear it said that life and other people have not met my client’s expectations. When this occurs my client often reports healthy feelings of disappointment and sadness. Unfortunately, mixed in with such disappointment and sadness can be unhealthy feelings. Feelings such as unhealthy anger, bitterness, depression and … Read more
My Rolls Royce Shame Attack
My Rolls Royce Shame Attack 7/8/2014 In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) we encourage you to not only talk the rational talk but to walk the rational talk. It is important not only hold rational beliefs but to be able to act on your rational beliefs. Shame is a feeling that holds people back. It […]
Mind Reading, Fortune Telling and Unwavering Acceptance When All Else Fails
Mind Reading, Fortune Telling and Unwavering Acceptance When All Else Fails 6/4/2014 In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) we remind our clients that needless emotional upset may be experienced when we engage in what is known as mind reading thinking error. The mind reading error involves making a hypothesis about what someone else is thinking […]
Emotional Upset about Emotional Upset
In Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) I show people how to not only address the self-defeating emotional reactions that they feel in response to adversity but I also help them with what is called their “upset about upset”. There are numerous ways that fallible humans upset themselves about their emotional upset. One easy to understand … Read more
Dr. Dr. Walter Matweychuk, Ph. D.’s New York City Lectures on Friday, May 9th 2014
Tomorrow May 9th I will be doing two lectures in New York City at the Albert Ellis Institute. The first is REBT/CBT: Similarities and Differences (1:30 pm – 4:30 pm). This is a three hour workshop for professionals where I will be discussing the therapy of Aaron T. Beck the founder of Beck’s Cognitive Behavior … Read more