Walter J. Matweychuk, Ph.D. Shoulding on Thy Self Leads to Self-Depreciation 4/29/2019 “Shouldhood leads to shithood. You cannot be a shit without a should.” Albert Ellis, PhD Albert Ellis was known for his wit, humor, and creative use of language. He emphasized the importance of coming to learn how to accept ourselves unconditionally. Having known Al, I attest to […]
Keeping After Ourselves – Not Easy but Possible 3/6/2019 Therapy clients are the way they are not only because they easily and naturally disturb themselves (as perhaps all human beings) but also because they indulge in their dysfunctional feelings, thoughts, and behaviors and refuse to persist in the hard work usually required to change them. […]
Take the REBT Challenge – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is not easy psychotherapy to implement. It will help you to experience the pleasant feeling of satisfaction that comes with therapeutic progress and personal growth, but you have to work for it. REBT is strong medicine for a tough world. It … Read more
Language is Tool – Wield It Precisely Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk Be careful about labeling yourself with some aspects of your disturbances. You have, perhaps, depressed feelings – at certain times and under specific conditions. But if you therefore conclude “I am a depressive,” you encourage yourself to practically always feel depressed under many conditions. … Read more
Language is a Tool – Wield It Precisely 2/25/2019 Be careful about labeling yourself with some aspects of your disturbances. You have, perhaps, depressed feelings – at certain times and under specific conditions. But if you therefore conclude “I am a depressive,” you encourage yourself to practically always feel depressed under many conditions. This is […]
It’s Bad, NOT Awful – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk Awfulizing exists on a world wide scale and may well be an inherent reaction to very bad, potentially fatal events. Who among us doesn’t fairly often engage in it? Few!…Nonetheless, exceptionally bad occurrences are only awful, horrible, or terrible when you define them as such. Bad … Read more
It is Bad, NOT Awful – Awfulize at Your Own Peril 1/31/2019 Awfulizing exists on a world wide scale and may well be an inherent reaction to very bad, potentially fatal events. Who among us doesn’t fairly often engage in it? Few!…Nonetheless, exceptionally bad occurrences are only awful, horrible, or terrible when you define them […]
Emotional Responsibility – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own emotional destiny.” – Albert Ellis, Ph.D. In Rational Emotive Behavior … Read more
Develop an Anti-Moaning Philosophy “Acknowledge that you are choosing, are responsible for your self-pitying and complaining. People may be doing you in and conditions may truly be unfair. But nobody makes you whine about this. Nobody but you.” – Albert Ellis, Ph.D. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy helps people appreciate the power of choice that … Read more
Bearing the Bearable – Dr. Walter J. Matweychuk “…very few things you don’t like will actually kill you. In fact, you rarely say, ‘I can’t stand it!’ when you are referring to physical danger – but mainly to non-dangerous events like rejection. So you can stand practically everything that you don’t at all like.” – … Read more
