Eight Steps Forward and Two Backward – Beating Backsliding with Unconditional Self-Acceptance and Perseverance

https://youtu.be/j5h78ZwjpLU I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Basketball Star Michael Jordon Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, REBT, is an … Read more

How to Make Yourself Impervious to Insults

Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions.   Epictetus Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) can make you impervious … Read more

Dying Well with REBT

I was not, I was, I am not, I care not. – Epicurus Death does not concern us, because as long as we exist, death is not here. And when it does come, ​we no longer exist. – Epicurus Sadly, all of us one day will die. The hour of our death is uncertain, but … Read more

How Your Perception of Reality Can Be Distorted by Your Rigid and Extreme Attitudes

Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one. – Bruce Lee REBT is a tough-minded approach to life’s challenges. When patients discuss their greatest fears and disappointments with me, some of these may seem unlikely to occur. As an REBT psychotherapist, I will initially not point out … Read more

The Road of Personal Growth is Through Discomfort Not Around It

The road to personal growth is through calculated risk-taking and discomfort. In Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, I teach you attitudes that help you bear discomfort and take calculated risks. REBT works because it focuses on getting people out of their comfort zone and encourages them to accept that change does not come easily. Personal growth … Read more

1st Anniversary of the weekly Saturday REBT Conversation Hour on Zoom and the Fundamental Ideas of REBT

This Saturday, August 7th, marks the first anniversary of the Saturday Rational Emotive Behavioral Conversation Hour on Zoom. The purpose of this hour is to share with the world the lessons, ideas, strategies, and philosophy of Dr. Albert Ellis and his REBT theory. Ellis trained me, and over the thirty-one years of my career as a psychologist, I … Read more

14th Anniversary of the death of Albert Ellis

Dr. Albert Ellis, the originator of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), changed the psychotherapy paradigm. In 1956 at the American Psychological Association in Chicago, he gave a presentation where he argued the most efficient and thorough way of helping people in psychotherapy was to offer them a choice in how they think about things. This … Read more

Overcoming Ego Based Perfectionism

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) aims to free people from unhealthy emotional reactions humans all too easily experience. As fallible humans, we tend to demand perfection in ourselves, others, and even of the conditions of life. REBT is a leading psychotherapeutic approach for overcoming perfectionism because it targets the rigid and extreme attitudes which are … Read more