Realism and Acceptance

REBT is a parsimonious philosophy, but as leading REBT psychologist, Dr. Windy Dryden has written, “REBT is simple, but not simplistic.” No concise sentence or paragraph captures the totality of this powerful philosophy. Different ways of explaining REBT can emerge from a deep and accurate understanding of REBT philosophy. Because REBT is parsimonious, it is tempting to … Read more

Walter You are Not Special

Albert Ellis, the originator of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, argued that the best practitioners of REBT were those who did not merely see it as a technique to be applied only to one’s clinical work with patients. Instead, he argued that the best practitioners of REBT used it routinely in their own lives. It is … Read more

REBT and Your Emotional Reaction to Putin’s War

Because of its philosophical roots, REBT is a cognitive-behavioral therapy that has something to offer even during a geopolitical crisis like the one we are currently experiencing. Recent events present the opportunity to feel anger, despair, and anxiety. I will assume you are an individual who adamantly opposes the current aggression in Ukraine. I will … Read more

The Case for Replacing Self-Esteem with Unconditional Self-Acceptance

All people have goals, purposes, and values. Pursuing these things produces a sense of accomplishment, satisfaction, and personal meaning. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is unique in its emphasis on rating the progress one makes towards these personal goals, purposes, and values while encouraging the elimination of the rating of the self or the person. REBT promotes the … Read more

Cultivating Your Inner Flexible Voice for When Your Desires are Thwarted

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) acknowledges that it is challenging for humans to think flexibly and in a non-extreme way. In REBT, we encourage you to keep your preferences and desires but to avoid transforming your desires into absolute demands. It is easier to follow this recommendation when the object of your desire is a … Read more

Maintaining and Improving Important Personal Relationships by Avoiding Unhealthy Hurt

​Humans are highly imperfect and fragile. We are social animals who thrive on relationships with other humans. Relationships with significant others are often frayed or ended by the experience of unhealthy hurt. It is sad when people become estranged from family and friends due to hurt feelings. People sometimes are uncomfortable acknowledging feelings of hurt. … Read more

Overcoming Guilty Parent Syndrome with REBT

Perhaps the most challenging role a person can play is playing the role of a parent. It is a great responsibility to parent one, two, or more children in today’s world. There is nonstop decision-making. Once a person becomes a parent, they never sleep the same. As infants and toddlers, children require constant supervision. Raising … Read more