The other fundamental human disturbance is discomfort disturbance. This is where we think in a self-defeating way about the price to be paid to achieve some goal. All humans aim to remain comfortable. Then when we become aware that some goal requires discomfort or life conditions make for discomfort we hold unrealistic, rigid, self-defeating beliefs about this discomfort. Here are a few beliefs that reflect the presence of discomfort disturbance:
1. I must get what I want quickly, easily, and on the terms I demand.
2. I must achieve my goal or else I will make myself depressed about not getting what I want.
3. I cannot stand or tolerate the effort or waiting to get what I want. I have to have it now!
All people come into the world with no discomfort tolerance and no frustration tolerance. As time goes on, we learn to wait and work for what we want. However, sometimes there are areas of our lives where we have low frustration tolerance/low discomfort tolerance. We then have a choice. We can change the beliefs that lead to discomfort disturbance and choose to avoid disturbing ourselves about the discomfort, frustration, time, effort, etc. of getting what we want or philosophically accepting these things and working towards what we want with healthy feelings of displeasure and frustration.
Most humans have both ego disturbance and discomfort disturbance. REBT will show you how to identify the rigid and extreme beliefs that lead to each of these fundamental human disturbances so that you can liberate yourself from the suffering of each. The goal is to teach you to accept yourself fully and unconditionally and then to decide on what you want to achieve going forward and to tolerate the discomfort and frustration involved in pursuing those goals.