Once you start consistently using the “I made myself upset over what occurred” mindset of REBT you are on the road to driving yourself sane. As a fallible human you have the capacity to move towards sanity from being “unsane” and emotionally disturbable. This simple twist of words will be difficult for you to utter in the most tempting moments of life. However, this is exactly when you will benefit from this awkward and sane way of describing your emotional experience. If you do as REBT teaches, you are taking a liberating and bold step towards rationality and emotional responsibility. Here are more examples for you to reflect on:
1. I made myself guilty over my parent’s criticism of my self-interested behavior.
2. I made myself shameful when I committed the faux pas at the meeting.
3. I made myself envious in an unhealthy way when I learned of his promotion.
4. I made myself jealous in an unhealthy way when I noticed my date laughing and enjoying the conversation with my friend at the party.
5. I made myself anxious when I realized I may get bad news from the doctor.
6. I made myself depressed when I received yet another rejection letter.
7. I made myself feel unhealthy anger when my child misbehaved.
I might add that REBT is unique in emphasizing emotional responsibility. Other cognitive behavior therapies encourage you to see that there is a relationship between thinking and feeling. We in REBT drive this point home in a much more focused and self-liberating way. REBT teaches that people largely disturb themselves. People construct their emotions and have choice in how to think, feel and behave when adversity strikes. This is a very liberating point of view. Yes you can drive yourself sane! I challenge you to try it.