YOU ARE MAKING YOURSELF UPSET ABOUT THE LOUSY THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU. REMIND YOURSELF YOU HAVE A CHOICE IN THE ATTITUDE YOU EMBRACE ABOUT IT. REMIND YOURSELF THAT THIS ATTITUDE WILL IMPACT HOW YOU MAKE YOURSELF FEEL AND REACT TO THIS LOUSY THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. How will not taking responsibility for my emotions and behaviors in this negative situation possibly going to help me?
2. How will thinking and reacting like a victim going to help me have some happiness while persisting at changing what I eventually might be able to change?
3. Do I want control over my life and my emotional destiny or do I want to rely on luck and other people to treat me kindly as I travel through life?
You are capable of self-helping, self-empowering reasoning when you encounter adversity. It does require practice but you can do it. All humans have this capacity. Sadly, some people elect not to embrace the Principle of Emotional Responsibility and take the easier role of playing the victim.